Getting under the covers is not easy ... particular when using the wonders of the net to make that happen.
This is a list (how I love a list) of the things I know..so far. Willing to be proved wrong on all of them.
1. The immediate rush of chatting to someone new is amazing. Building a picture of each other, the first time you decide to switch on the web cams. Its the buzz, that stomach churning OMG moment, when they email or text you or send you a pic. This can sometimes be really intense contact over a number of consecutive days.
2. Don’t lose hope .. like everything this rush dies, pretty quickly usually within 3 days. I would suggest that as an average, because people have lives and they are not permanently attached to their laptops. So there may be contact but it will be considerably less than the initial flurry of emails or chat exchanges.
3. For every 10 people you connect with.
In reality you will probably only met 3 and out of that …well I am still learning.. but you got to have fun along the way.
4. Distance. It matters the die- hard optimist in me wants to say it doesn’t but it does. But I am willing to be proved wrong.
5. Decide in advance what it is that you want . Are you looking for a relationship then if so, exchanging sexy pics at the beginning might not be the way to go. If it’s a hook up (as I would call it ) or a Meet as its commonly called on the websites then sending those pics will get you that. As long as you stay “game” and the dreaded cold feet don’t get ya.
6. Don’t Get hurt. Most people on line have told you a million lies to get you where they want you. If you send you pics or video you have to assume that they may just end up being used as homemade porn. I suppose there is some sense of flattery you can take from that the idea that someone wants to cum all over a picture of you.
7. Beware of the Young Ones and the Much Older Ones. OK this is blatant ageism I can see that…but a word to the wise .. it matters. The young ones want to practice their “fucking abilty” and having already gone through he “Practice” stage you may agree with me that teaching some kid old tricks is no fun. While on the reverse teaching an old dog new tricks .. comes with baggage. You like me may have your own set of baggage and not really have room to carry much more.
8. Lies I think
honesty is the best policy You may disagree.. ok so a bit of fluffy stuff you know.. your not going to send all the photos where you look like a pig. But on the flip side don’t lie about the big stuff. There is no point. Unless you’re a C**t and you want to just hurt people.
9.
Don't get talked into meeting someone. Don't let yourself get sucked in by feeling guilty or obliged. Your not. If you don't feel comfortable don't go. If you got alot to lose, why risk the chance of getting sprung over someone your not that into.
10
.Accept. That it may turn out the way you want.
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